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OPENING REALITY CHECK
Let’s be honest — I’ve yelled at the sky because it rained. I’ve cursed drivers who cut me off. I’ve even stared down my coffee like it personally wronged me. So if you think mindfulness means sitting cross-legged on a Himalayan mountaintop humming Om, relax… Crocs still trigger me.
Mindfulness and meditation, I believe, aren’t about becoming some serene monk gliding through life; they’re about reducing how often we lose our sh!t — and improving our ability to reclaim equanimity when we inevitably do.
They’re practical tools for managing reactivity: building that small space between stimulus and response so we can act with reason rather than raw emotion.
That space might just be the most valuable real estate in your day.
The Two Sides of the Same Coin
Meditation is the training ground — the gym where you build your ability to return to calm, clarity, and choice when life gets noisy. It’s where you strengthen focus, awareness, and presence — mental reps for your mind.
Mindfulness is what you take out of the gym and into the coliseum of life — the ongoing practice of being aware of your thoughts, emotions, and surroundings without judgment.
It’s what happens when you lift the tools you’ve built on the cushion and carry them into traffic, meetings, or family dinners.
Every interaction, conversation, or challenge becomes an invitation to practice.
The more mindful you become, the deeper your meditation feels.
And as your meditation deepens, mindfulness flows more effortlessly into daily life.
The two nurture each other — like breath and movement, they co-emerge.
Inner Quiet, Outer Effectiveness
As the inner quietude deepens, your outer effectiveness expands.
You become freer — less reactive, more deliberate.
Life begins to flow through you, rather than against you.
Reality check:
What’s the end of your day like when it’s been spent reacting all day — snapping, rushing, judging — versus one where you’ve trained yourself to let things go?
Where do you think your choices will be spent that evening?
On things that soothe your frazzled state — the glass of wine, the scrolling, the late-night fridge forage — or on choices that restore it?
Every flare-up drains the account of calm.
Every pause replenishes it.
You Don’t Need a Mountain or a Mantra
This doesn’t require hours of silence or sitting cross-legged in a robe.
It’s about reducing reactivity and increasing the space between stimulus and response.
If you come home from your day a little less stressed because you haven’t reacted to every small frustration — that’s the work in motion.
We’re simply practicing not to lose ourselves over what we can’t control — and to recognise, earlier and earlier, what is within our control. — like yelling at the sky because it’s raining, or fuming because someone cut you off, or your barista used oat milk instead of soy.
Start with the low-hanging fruit — those everyday moments. That’s where mastery begins.
What Makes It Hard
Meditation and mindfulness become near impossible when we’re sleep-deprived, hungover, or overstimulated.
When we start our day by feeding the mind with distraction — social media, work emails, the endless scroll — we’re already draining the focus we’re trying to build.
Good sleep. Clean fuel. Clear mornings.
They’re not wellness luxuries; they’re the conditions that make mindfulness possible.
You can’t meditate your way out of chronic fatigue or a hangover any more than you can deadlift your way out of dehydration.
The groundwork matters.
Practicing in the Wild
Mindfulness isn’t built in monasteries — it’s built in traffic, in queues, in kitchens, in conversations that test your patience, with the challenging boss or work colleague.
“Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.”
- Carl Jung
When someone interrupts you — that’s your rep.
When your computer freezes — another rep.
When your plans change — rep.
We’re not practicing to perfect ourselves; we’re practicing to understand ourselves.
Every small moment of awareness — catching yourself before snapping, breathing before replying, noticing before judging — is a micro-win.
That’s vitality in action.
The Double-Edged Sword
The more mindful you become, the more you notice — how distracted you are, how many words escape your mouth that you didn’t even think about, let alone believe.
It’s confronting. You realise how much of life runs on autopilot.
The good news? That’s mindfulness.
The act of noticing the mind’s wandering is awareness — that’s the rep.
The next trick is to treat that discovery with self-kindness and patience.
Because once you see it, you realise there’s a long, long way to go — and that’s okay.
You’re not behind; you’re simply aware now.
The Point Isn’t Perfection
The goal isn’t to become unflappable.
It’s to become aware enough to notice when you’re not.
I’m still a work in progress — we all are.
I still get impatient. I still mutter under my breath “did you win your bet?” when I see someone wearing Crocs. But the difference now?
I see it happening. I catch it faster.
And more often than not, I laugh at it.
That’s mindfulness doing its job — turning the drama down and the understanding up.
Reflection
Mindfulness isn’t a thing you do.
It’s a state you return to — again and again — each time you remember that you can.
Reflection Prompt:
Where could you pause, breathe, and choose differently today?
Start there. That’s your gym.
If you can come home tonight a little less reactive, a little more deliberate — you’ve done the work.